Look At The Stages Of A Relationship To See If It Is The Right Relationship For You

2009
07.12
by Miles Vitnar

What are the stages of a relationship and how can you tell if you’re in the right relationship? Have you made a mistake by getting back together with someone, only you cant see it yet? Sometimes during a break up the only thing you want is the other person. But once you are back together you wonder if you made the right decision.

Theres no foolproof way to determine if this person is the right one for you. There are certain stages of a relationship that you should look for. Things can change, but for now you can look around and see if this is the right place to be.

Figure out whether this relationship is right for you by asking yourself several questions. The first stage to consider is, are you happy? No one expects you to be skipping and picking flowers every second, but in general you should feel content when you are with that person.

The second stage is when you may have a doubt now and then or a bad feeling, but if your feelings toward that person and the relationship are mostly positive, then thats normal. Dont let the odd doubt or strange feeling make you wonder if you have made a mistake.

If you do feel doubt or sadness, is it because youre wondering about someone else you would rather be with instead? Or are they just general thoughts about the possibilities you may be missing if you werent in this relationship?

It is normal to think like that sometimes, but if youre preoccupied by the what ifs, you might not be in the right relationship after all and after these stages of a relationship, this is where you should get out and start again.

Thirdly, ask yourself if you feel safe in the relationship? This also means feeling physically safe as well as emotionally safety. That is, do you feel safe from physical abuse and/or the threat of a break up? Do you worry about your partner cheating often? If you spend a lot of your time in the relationship wondering if the other person is cheating, then you might not be with the right person after all.

If you think the person is cheating, then youre spending a lot of time being suspicious and questioning his or her motives and these thoughts will only fester. You need to figure out if your doubts are reasonable or not, or is it just your own insecurities? If you really dont trust the other person, you shouldnt be in the relationship anyway and it is likely to end badly.

When you have followed these stages of a relationship ask yourself, do you feel special? You should. If you feel like youre constantly fighting for the other persons attention and affection, get out of the relationship as you should feel like the most important person in the world to them if youre with the right person.

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